Lessons For A New Long Haul Trucker

Sorry for not posting for so long, I hope to get back to it real soon.  I should have plenty to write about as I’m in the middle of a major career switch to long haul trucking.  I’m proud to say, I survived trucking school, and got my CDL, which ended up being much more of an accomplishment than I thought it was going to be, but that is a story for a different post.

In getting ready to go out with my mentor driver next week, I came across this great blog post full of great tips for new drivers.   Click on the link below to check it out.

Blog Post –>  Tips for surviving the first 6 months as a long haul truck driver

Till Next Time,

Ken

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Shocking Secret of New York City

I recently took my first trip to New York City as an adult, and learned somthing schocking.  Something that perhaps, New Yorkers do not want you to know.

Since I grew up in New England I had come to believe that New Yorkers are mean, unfriendly, and only care about themselves.  If you were to visit New York City, you would be risking your life, if you dared look a New Yorker in the eye on the street.  In addition to that, I would have to hide all signs of being a Red Sox fan as if I were a resistance fighter in Paris circa 1942.

Despite all this knowledge, I finally broke down, and agreed to take my family on a long overdue trip to this ‘danger zone’.  Needless to say, we fit all stereotypes regarding tourist in the Big Apple.  Gazing around in awed wonder as if we’d never seen a motor vehicle, or a building taller than 2 stories before.  Understanding Einstein’s Theory of Reletivity seemed easier then breaking the secret code that seemed to be the subway system.

As we stubled our way around feeling more like relatives of Honey Boo Boo than friends of Carrie Bradshaw, it slowly started to dawn on me…  And my eyes begin to open to the shocking secret of New York City… New Yorkers are amazinly helpful, and friendly to tourists!  I started to gaze in wonder at the New Yorkers around me, as I had at all the bright lights.

It started on the first day, when we were baffled by the turnstile to get into the subway.  We may still be stuck trying to get through these complicated obstacles if it wasn’t for the mercy of a fast moving young lady, that not only slowed down, but stopped to show us how to properly swipe our cards, and even swiped her own card when we still couldn’t seem to grasp this task.  With a smile, and a friendly “enjoy New York” she returned to the bustling crowd, and I thought she must be an aberation, These types of helpful people were not suppossed to exist in NYC.  However, by the time our 3 day odyssey was complete, we had run into these folks time & time again, making our trip not only that much easier, but quite enjoyable.  The downside for the friendly New Yorkers, is based on our experience, we are now itching to return!

My story would not be complete if I failed to mention one of my subway companions that took friendly to the next level.  He started out by offering to be my personal assitant.  When I infomed him that I was from Massachusetts, he insisted he could still help me, even after he found out Massachusetts was more than an hour away.  By the time we reached our stop, he had gone from personal assistant to celebrities making $40,000 during the month of December, to asking me for a dollar, and when denied, asking for .50 cents.

Overall, our trip was great.  We loved seeing the iconic images we’d only viewed like so many others on TV, and in movies.  My apologies to all New Yorkers for letting your secret out, and to those we made late for wherever they were hustling to by taking to long to study the subway map, we also apologize.

Till Next Time…

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Review of ‘This Is Gonna Hurt’ by Nikki Sixx

If you grew up in the eighties, then there’s a good chance you were a fan of Motley Crue.  If you didn’t grow up with them, and became a fan later on, then I’m not sure if you’d be into “This Is Gonna Hurt” by Motley bassist, Nikki Sixx.  This book by Nikki, is a combination of his pictures, lyrics to some of his popular songs, mostly the latest by his ‘other’ band SixxAM, and some insight on some of the life lessons he’s learned.  There is very little on the glamorous side of being a rock & roll king, so that’s why this may not interest newer fans of Nikki’s.  I could be wrong, so if you are interested in what life lesson’s Nikki has picked up on his amazing journey, then by all means, you’ll enjoy this book.

First, the pictures…  Nikki admittedly looks for the seedier side of life to photograph.  Due to all his dances with various demons, he wants to capture others that are blatantly fighting their own battles which for Nikki boils down to homeless, prostitutes, and drug addicts.  These pics along with Nikki’s staged photos of what in his demented mind is cool & beautiful, are not the type of pics I want to spend any time browsing through.  So, other than the few pics of Nikki being Nikki, and not Nikki Sixx the Rock God, I didn’t really care for what for me was some very strange pictures.

Having recently tore through as many books on Motley as I could, I certainly could not pass this one up.  However, if you are a fan of Motley, and would like to learn some of their history, how they came to be the machine that is Motley Crue, I recommend any of the others, especially ‘The Dirt’.  Tommy Lee’s ‘TommyLand’, and Vince Neil’s ‘Tattoos & Tequila’, are awesome also for some insight into what makes these guys, and therefore Motley Crue tick.  I would also recommend reading one of those books first prior to reading this one as some in depth knowledge of Motley & Nikki’s story would make you appreciate just how far Nikki’s come as evidenced by his writing in this book.

I have to admit, I haven’t read Nikki’s ‘Heroin Diary’s’ yet, so I was missing some of the story, but having read the other books I mentioned, I had a pretty clear picture of the life Nikki led.  And that boils it down to what I really enjoyed about this book, seeing how far Nikki has come in his life.  There are a lot of stones that could be thrown at Nikki, or any of the members of Motley Crue, for the life they led; the self absorbed, I don’t give a fuck about anyone else, I’m going to do whatever the fuck I want, and to hell with the consequences lifestyle.

What would you have been like if you were handed all that money, & fame at 20?  I know, I’d probably be lucky to still be alive in my forties, if I had been in their shoes, and Nikki certainly understands that, so it’s really cool, to see him come full circle, and learn to appreciate life, his amazing gifts, and to even give back.  To me, that’s the amazing lesson right there, that we all need to be constantly growing, and learning, and striving to improve ourselves everyday.  It’s easy to shrug this lesson off if it comes from somebody with a bunch of letters after their name, but to come from Nikki Sixx, it really makes you think twice, and re-commit to applying those lessons to your own life.

Till Next Time…

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Does Music Identify You?

Does music identify you?  Before you rush to answer yes to that, let me clarify what I’m asking.  I would’ve probably answered yes to that question myself throughout most of my music loving life, however, I’ve come to realize recently that what music I enjoy does not in fact have anything to do with who I am.  Like many of you, I ran around so proud of what I was listening to at certain times in my life.  My coolest was when I thought I was part of only a select few that was into the shocking angst that was NIN, & White Zombie in the 90′s.  Come to find out, those groups sold millions of CD’s so I guess I wasn’t quite so bad ass as I thought.

Let’s face it, music is an emotion, and there is a musical style to fit every emotion, which is probably why, I’ve been a fan of just about every type of music there is through the years.  The formative, highly emotional wonder years holds a special place musically for most peoople.  That’s when we really tried to tie our idenity to the music we liked.  I was heavily influenced by Motley Crue so you better have stayed out of my way, cause that meant I was hard core!  I can clearly recall the intense desire I had to own a ‘boom box’ so that I could walk around during the summer months blasting to the world the cool, hard core music I was into, and therefore, showing the world how hard core, bad ass I was.  I wasn’t allowed to have a ‘boom box’, so I had to settle for walking around the NH Christian campground I spent my summers at blasting Def Leppard’s ‘Pyromania’ out of my mom’s cassette recorder.  Oh yeah, I was hard core all right.

My conservative parents did not want me being influenced by these groups, so as I started taking an interest in music, I quickly got restricted to only Christian music.  Despite a growing number of Christian rock groups in the 80′s, it was difficult to express to the world how bad ass I was when some Vince Neil clone was croning about fighting for Jesus, please believe.  I tried my best to convince my friends how bad ass Stryper really was, even using the fact that they were on MTV as my proof, yet they never bought it.  Looking back at all black & yellow spandex, I can now see why they didn’t buy it.

So to all you bad asses that are blasting your ‘hard core’ rap at the stop lights, or at the convienance store, you are not in fact ‘hard core’ because your listening to someone boost how hard core they are.  Same for you metal freaks.  You are not unique because you are into extreme metal, your just fucked up!  Ha, just kidding, not.  Seriously, whatever your into, you’re not alone in your taste.  Punk, rap, rock, metal, extreme this, or extreme that; your music is simply the attitude you wish to portray.  The attitude you wish to adopt, and to show the world.  Trust me, you are not the first, nor the last to have that attitude.

Oh, and by the way for you goody two shoes that are into classical, opera, or whatever holier than thou music your into, you’re not unique either.  There are a lot of people that want to portray that image to the world as well.  Remember, you are not a better person than anybody else just because of the music you listen to, so you can wipe that condescending smirk off your face.

Till Next Time…

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A Negative Mind – by Napoleon Hill

A negative mind never attracts happiness or material success, but it will attract their opposites.

You may trick yourself into believing that you are only playing devil’s advocate or searching for weaknesses in apparently good ideas, but in the end negative thinking always produces negative results. Just as your mind will work tirelessly to translate your positive thoughts into their physical equivalent, it will work equally hard to create negative results when all of your thoughts are negative.

Till Next Time…

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Slow Dance by David L. Weatherford

Slow Dance – By David L. Weatherford

Have you ever watched kids On a Merry-go-round

Or Listened to the rain Slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight? Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

You better slow down. Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short. The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day On the fly?

When you ask: How are you? Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, Do you lie in your bed

With the next hundred chores Running through your head?

You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short. The music won’t last.

Ever told your child, We’ll do it tomorrow?

And in your haste, Not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch, Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time To call and say, “Hi”?

You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short. The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere You miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry & hurry through your day It is like an unopened gift thrown away.

Life is not a race. Do take it slower.

Hear the music Before the song is over.

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What Are Your Thanksgiving Traditions…

Seems like just yesterday it was hot, humid summertime, and I longed for the cooler weather so I could put on a comfy sweatshirt again.  Most of the leaves are now on the ground, and that crispness in the air tells us winter is just around the corner which has us either anticipating the skiing, skating, & sledding, or longing to escape to the southern states.

As we quickly approach the holiday season, which seems to start earlier every year, I thought I’d take a moment to reflect on holiday traditions.  The older I get, the more I cherish these traditions, and the memories of them.  For me, the traditions of Thanksgiving were even more anticipated than our Christmas traditions.  Don’t get me wrong, I longed for Christmas morning just as much as the next kid, however, Thanks to my parents combined effort, Thanksgiving held it’s own special magic.  Perhaps a big part of the magic was due to this Thanksgiving kicking off the whole holiday season, which meant a whole month of heightened anticipation.

A big part of my Thanksgivings was having my cousins visit from New York.  As a kid, having relatives from New York, was equivelent to having relatives from a very far, & foreign land, and their presence over the Thanksgiving weekend brought it’s own specialness for the changes it brought to the usual routine.

Hands down, the best part of Thanksgiving was the annual high school football game.  Coming from an athletic family meant a lot of personal involvment in this game, so some of my earliest memories of this game are of my older sister down on the sideline as captain of the cheerleaders.  Later, my brother played in the game, eventually becoming captain & star of the Amesbury, MA team.  While my brother played, my best friend growing up, whom lived right across the street from me, volunteered as waterboys.  What an honor that was;  To be down on the field with the players, wearing high school football jerseys, while are pals from school yelled to us from the stands.

Yes, those were magic times.  First thing in the morning, getting layered up with warm clothes to face the crisp New England weather.  My dad getting agitated that we’re going to be too late to get a good parking spot, while warning my New York cousins that they’re going to need more layers, or they’re going to be cold.  Of course fashion seemed more important to these foreigners from a strange land, so although they looked good when they left the house, the constant shaking during the game gave them an aura of ‘cool’ that they probably weren’t trying for.

After all these years, reflecting on my childhood Thankgiving memories has me recalling more how I felt, verse specific events.  Two distinct feeling come to mind as I go back to those years, first, the pride I felt in my sister, brother, and my parents in front of my reletives, and two, the comforting feeling of security of belonging to this family.  I, like perhaps many of you, felt perfecly content to be surrounded by so much noise, so many stories, so many different senses of humor that caused my grandparents home to overflow with laughter in much the same way that the table overflowed with food.

So please, take a moment this holiday season to reflect on your traditions, and memories.  Perhaps taking the time to thank those that made those moments possible may help you focus on what’s really important during this memorable time of year.  In fact, how about we make a pledge to really take the name Thanksgiving to heart, and give thanks for those in our lives that make memories worth having.

Till Next Time…

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Dark, Stormy Night – A Short Story

It was a dark, and stormy night…  Oh for christ sakes, how many damn stories have started with that line Zach thought to himself as he gingerly felt the back of his head, and tried to get his bearings.  He’d taken quite a wack to the back of his head, however, he wasn’t sure if he’d fallen, or sombody had wacked him a good one.  With a quickening pulse, Zach started to realize that he doesn’t remember much of anything, never mind how he’d ended up in behind this building that appeared to be an old, deserted gas station.  As Zach took a deep breath to try to keep the panic at bay, he tried to think about where he might be.  He soon realized he hadn’t the slightest idea of what state he was in, or for that matter, what state should he be in.  “Where the fuck do I live?” He thought to himself, as his head begin to really throb.  It was indeed a dark & stormy night, and that certainly didn’t help him.  He could see the outline of tree branches snaking up into the dark sky that reminded him of Halloween movies that took place in New England, but he wasn’t sure if he was suppossed to be in New England, or not.

His head made it difficult to concentrate, and the slight drizzle, was starting come down harder.  A strong gust blew, scattering the late fall leaves everywhere.  “At least I know what time of year it is” Zach thought, but that little revelation shed no light on why he was waking up in just a t-shirt, and jeans behind a deserted old building in the middle of a storm that appeared to be getting worse.  A strong shiver shook Zach, cold & fear mixing together to cause the shivers to grow uncontrolable.  Zach knew he had to get moving or else suffer further effects of the cold.  A quick assesment of his body told him the only thing wrong with him was the back of his head, and a bit of stiffness that suggested he’d been laying there for a while.

The building was boarded up, but perhaps there was a way in.  Getting out of this wind, and rain was certianly help.  Pushing through some rubble, leaves, and overgrown vegetation, Zach reached the boarded up back door, and with a swift kick he was able to puncture the enought to rip it back enough to get in.  “Interesting…  I wonder where I learned how to kick like that” he noted to himself as one more thing to figure out.

Zach made his way to what was once the front of the convenience store, and looked out past where gas pumps had once stood.  Wherever he was, it was rural.  Not many lights out there; just a couple from a home down the street a bit, but other than that, it appeared he was in the middle of nowwhere, and at the moment, that did not seem to be a good thing.

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Struggling With Addiction &/or Depression? There Is Hope

I want you to smile right now because guess what?  There is hope!  Isn’t that something worth smiling about?  Think about it, there is change for you; your life does not have to be like this.  Isn’t that great news?  How you ask…

First, stop worrying what other people think, not easy I know, but critical to your success.  If you don’t like this the person your with then it’s not a healthy relationship for you, so TAKE CONTROL of you life, and break it off.  You only live once, so who would you rather dictate how your life is going to be, other people or you?  Good news it’s your choice, and that should make you happy that you have the power to make your life what you want.

STOP whining, STOP complaining, STOP blaming others, and DECIDE that you are going to take control of you life RIGHT NOW!

You want love?  Your capable of love, of course you are, however, NOT until you start loving yourself.  Think about it, how is someone else going to love you if you don’t love yourself huh?

Listen, none of this is easy, but many have gone what you’ve gone through, and made it out ok.  My suggestions?  Get some good reading material.  What you read, can help change your thoughts, and changing your life STARTS with changing your thoughts.  Your thoughts lead to your attitude, and your attitude leads to your actions, and your actions will lead you to where you’ll be tomorrow, and the next day, and the next…  & so on, and so on.  Makes sense doesn’t it.

Your health is a result of your past actions, your wealth is a result of your past actions, your relationships are…  You got it.  So to put it simply, decide where you want to be in all of these areas, then work your way back, to get yourself there.  Example, what actions do you need to take to have the health that you want?  What attitude should you have to motivate you to take those actions?  What can you read to influence your thoughts that will give you that attitude?

Pretty simple process, yet it does take discipline to follow through with, however if you do, well then you’ve found the secret to success in ALL areas of your life!

Hope this helps!

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Too Scared To Take A Pregnancy Test / Should I Tell Him?

My answer to this young lady go voted best.   How would you have answered her?

Right, I’ve slept with a guy from work 3 times. The second time we didn’t use any protection and he came inside me (I know, so stupid), I am on cerazette (POP) but had missed one day (possibly two, I can’t remember) and I didn’t get the morning after pill. This was around 4 weeks ago and I’m too scared to take a pregnancy test. In the past week or so I’ve noticed that my nipples are quite sore, but I think this could be because since then I’ve not really been taking my pill so my hormones are all over the place.
I’m too scared to take a pregnancy test in case I am pregnant. If I am, there’s no way I’m keeping it but I’m terrified of the idea of getting an abortion. Just literally the processes.

Which leads me on to Q2:
If I AM pregnant (once I finally get my head around doing one), should I tell him that i’m getting an abortion? We’re friends, slightly more but things are a bit up in the air because we’ve both recently come out of relationships. I’m not yet sure if I want anything more from him but I would definitely not tell him to try and trap him or play with his feelings, this is one of the main reasons I’m wondering whether or not to tell him; because he might think that.

Please advise and reassure me. I’m bloody terrified.

I’m 20.

If you’re going to just have a go at me, don’t bother. I’m not an overly promiscuous person, and I’m not immature. I’m just scared and I need advice.

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Best Answer – Chosen by Asker

You’re scared, however you already know the answer don’t you?  Like you said, your not immature.

1)  You have to take a test ASAP.  You need to do this for your peace of mind most importantly.  The best way to overcome fear, is with action, so this is the first step.  No need to bring it up to him until you know for sure, especially if it’s not a serious relationship at this point.

2)  IF you are pregnant, THEN you NEED to tell him.  You know in your gut this is the right thing to do.

Throughout it all you need to keep fear at bay, don’t let fear overwelhm you.  One way to do this is to keep in mind that MANY have gone through what you may have to go through, and they all make it through right?  It may not be easy, it may not be pleasant, but guess what?  Pregnant or not, life never is easy right?  Keep in mind action is the best way to keep your spirits up, so just focus on the next step you need to take.  Make a plan, then take the steps to accomplish what you need to accomplish, and before you know it, your getting through a tough situation.

Good Luck.

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Asker’s Comment:
I just took the test, and it was negative. Thank you for giving me the courage to do so, although I wish I had earlier to save myself all this stress! At least this has now been my lesson; I’m not putting myself through this again any time soon!
Thank you :)
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